afrofabulous asked: Do you think that 28 is too old to try to pursue a career in art on your own terms? I wanted to be a 3D animator for as long as I can remember, but when I got to college I realized that going to college for it wasn't for me. The school and the environment was horrible and I was completely uninspired to continue animation. I went to school for fashion illustration after that and I although my teachers thought my art was truly beautiful, I didn't get to finish because I started a family.
(cont.) I became inspired again recently and I have been drawing and sketching everyday (for the past two years) as well as learning animation on my own. I am heavily influenced by your webcomic, but I just wanted to know if it was too late to pursue my dream without school and by myself at 28?
I started TJ and Amal at 31, with a weak art education and zero experience in comics, so you can probably guess where I stand on the matter!
I wish our culture didn’t place such heavy emphasis on “making it” in your teens and twenties; that the (justifiable!) attention paid to prodigies wouldn’t set “prodigy” as the norm. This kind of BS does everyone a disservice.
If you have a dream and the resources/ability to pursue it, there’s no reason to sit it out just because “everyone makes it by 25.” Because everyone DOESN’T make it by 25. Some do, some don’t, whatever.
What’s more, age can bring experience that will inform your work — work you couldn’t have made at 20 or 25 without that experience.
Sometimes when I get discouraged about this stuff, it helps to remember an anecdote I read a few years ago—
A retiree mentions to her friend that she’s considering going back to college and finishing her degree.
"What, at 65?" says her friend, "You’ll be at least 40 years older than everyone else in class!"
To which the lady replies, “oh, so you think I should wait till I’m 70?”
There’s no going backwards.
One of my favorite books, Jonathan Strange and Mr Norell, was Susanna Clarke’s first novel — which was published when she was 44.
Whenever I get down on myself for not being far enough along in my writing, I remember that, and remind myself that so long as I’m alive, kicking, and moving forward, it’s not too late.
All of these thinks, and also seconding that JSaMN is a hell of a novel.
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Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’
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The number of “get me out of here” tactics women have developed and shared to help each other escape from overly-insistent-to-borderline-predatory dudes in public places should probably be enough evidence of the existence of rape culture all on its own.
I especially like how, in the majority of cases, you don’t have to verbally communicate what your signals are to other women. I’ve had women I didn’t even know come save me. Literally every woman recognizes the “Dear god, help me” facial expression, and knows exactly what they should do. We don’t get a handbook for this. We don’t have a sit-down nail polish party where we talk about a standardized woman code for preventing creepers. It’s just part of being a woman.
BUT LOL RAPE CULTURE DOESN’T EXIST.
Yup. I’ve definitely taken strangers by the arm and pulled her aside to go, “Oh my GOD it’s you! How ARE YOU?!? It’s been so long!” and then been like “hey I could overhear that guy who wouldn’t leave you alone so I figured I’d give you an out” and then see their VISIBLY RELIEVED expressions. This is part of girl code, because rape culture is that pervasive.
I once had a girl sit on my lap and say “hey baby” after she witnessed a guy (who was easily 20+ years older than me) hitting on me and harassing me for my number even after I told him I was taken. After he got up and left she asked if I was okay. I couldn’t thank her enough times, I even bought her a drink.
When I was 16 years old, I went to a club with my mother to see a band perform. The part of the club where the concert was taking place was too hot and crowded, and I broke away from it before I had a full anxiety attack, though I was still visibly shaken. As I sat down at the bar, with my clearly marked under-18 hand stamp, an older man sat down next to me and started talking about how much nicer concerts were in his home country. He kept trying to offer me drinks, even though I already had a cup of ice. He would not leave me alone, even after I pointed out my hand stamp. Said that he preferred younger girls. I started to panic again.
A woman that was about 6’1” came over, grabbed me, and about screamed, “Girlfriend! I lost you in the crowd! Come on, your dad’s outside to get us!” She dragged me outside of the club, gave me a hug, and left. I ended up ditching my mum and actually calling my dad to pick me up.
Never ignore the ‘please help me’ face, ladies.
Rain and I used to pose as a couple to get away from bullshit like this back in the day…
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Anonymous asked: Why do you support the exotic pet trade?
I don’t support the exotic pet trade (in terms of taking animals from the wild to sell as pets) and I also don’t really support the breeding of many exotic species when their needs can rarely be adequately met in captivity.
Axolotls currently in the pet trade haven’t been taken from the wild in decades. They breed well in captivity, and it is very easy (comparatively) to satisfy their needs and keep them healthy. I don’t really have moral qualms with people keeping them as pets as long as they are well-informed and responsible.
My criteria for whether or not I’m comfortable with an animal being kept as a pet is usually a: was the animal taken directly from the wild and sold (if so then NO, ALWAYS NO) b: are the breeding practices transparent and are the breeders treating all of their animals responsibly, and c: does the animal have the possibility of being rehomed if anything happens to the owner (sanctuaries don’t count).
And of course, is the animal capable of having a healthy and fulfilling life in captivity. But this one is often the hardest to determine.
The black market and even the legal market for exotic animals can be appalling, so I can understand people’s disgust over it. But it’s important to understand that the circumstances behind each species are different. Lumping in axolotls with exotics in much worse condition probably hurts more than helps the cause, because people can point out how well many axolotls fare in captivity.
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